Let him know that he is not alone. If a man or boy you care about has been sexually assaulted, he is not alone. Male victimization is much more common than people realize. In the United States, approximately 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused before age 16. One in 12 men say that they have been raped or assaulted as an adult.
Let him know that you believe him. It may be hard for male survivors to admit they were victimized at all since male victimization is not openly discussed in most families and communities. For some boys and men, these feelings stop them or their families and friends from seeking help. You can help by letting them know that there are services specifically designed to help them.
Get informed. Learning more about the experiences of male survivors can help you better offer understanding and support to your friend or family member.
Respect his privacy. Ask before you share any of the information entrusted to you with anyone else. By asking first, you give control to the survivor which is one of the most important parts of their healing process.
Take care of yourself. Male survivors usually tell very few people about their experience. If a survivor chose to tell you, you are an important person in his life. Take care of yourself so that you will be better able to help your friend or family member.
BARCC offers counseling and groups especially for men, their friends and families. We have trained counselors who will understand what your friend or family member is going through. We can also refer men to other professionals who have experience helping male survivors.
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At BARCC, all survivors are treated with respect and understanding.